Real-Life Adventures in Estate Planning - Part 2

May 11, 2025
From Grief to Guidance: Building the Financial Village Women Need
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Sometimes, it takes a village to sustain us through life's darkest moments. The web of support that surrounds us—family, friends, colleagues, and compassionate professionals—forms the safety net that catches us when we fall.

In September 2021, Hope’s 92-year-old mother passed away after a rapid decline, leaving Hope facing emotional pain and a mountain of paperwork. As she navigated her mother’s estate settlement and financial accounts, Hope realized she was in unfamiliar territory. As a respected leader within her community, connecting others to available resources was Hope’s profession, but until that moment, she hadn’t needed the personal support herself.

"I needed my village," Hope recalls. From there, she started connecting the dots that would enable her to move forward. 

Her first step was finding an attorney to guide her through the estate settlement process. Recognizing her need for comprehensive financial support, her attorney referred Hope to BCT Wealth Advisors. That referral would become a lifeline in the months ahead.

"BCT is a family bank, and it always has been," Hope says, her voice full of gratitude. "When you walk in, everyone knows your name."

Hope found capable financial advisors and compassionate allies on the BCT Wealth team. The team created to-do lists to help Hope gather essential documents and ensured that her mother’s legacy was stewarded with care. 

As autumn gave way to winter, Hope believed the worst was behind her. But it wasn’t.

In December, Hope's 64-year-old husband suffered a massive heart attack and passed away. The irony wasn't lost on Hope: her husband had recently beaten cancer, and she believed that brighter days were ahead.

Overwhelmed by this second wave of grief, Hope reconnected with her village at BCT. "I walked into Leslie's office, put my head in my hands, and asked, 'What do I do now?'"

True to form, the BCT Wealth team didn't hesitate. In the difficult months that followed, the team offered their expertise and emotional support as Hope settled her husband's estate, pension, and life insurance paperwork.

Looking back on her journey, Hope reflects, "Before the loss of my mother and husband, I was naive about the particulars of my financial situation." 

Hope’s honesty is refreshing, as her experience is commonplace. When it comes to feeling confident about financial well-being, many women admit being less knowledgeable than men. In fact, a 2023 survey by the Transamerica Center for Retirement Studies found that approximately 43% of Baby Boomer women were not confident in their ability to manage their finances in retirement, compared to just 28% of Baby Boomer men. 

At BCT Wealth Advisors, our women-led team empowers clients to ask questions and take control of their livelihoods.

Today, Hope knows that her village at BCT Wealth stands ready to support her whenever she needs it. "Today, I feel empowered to make the financial decisions that are best for my future. This gives me incredible peace of mind."

At BCT Wealth, community is at the heart of everything we do, and we care deeply about our clients' well-being. Behind every portfolio is a person who needs a supportive community to help them thrive. For more financial empowerment tips, read our Wealth Wisdom for Women blog or visit BCT Wealth Advisors today.

Contributed by:  Stacy Duranko, AFIM® , Vice President, Wealth Advisor, BCT Wealth Advisors 

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About the Company

Founded in 1871, BCT - Bank of Charles Town, also known as The Community's Bank, is a wholly owned subsidiary of Potomac Bancshares, Inc. (OTC:PTBS). With approximately $896 million in assets as of March 31, 2025, the Company conducts operations through its main office, an additional eight branch offices, and two loan production offices.  BCT’s offices are located in Jefferson and Berkeley Counties (WV), Washington County (MD), and Loudoun and Stafford Counties (VA).   The Bank offers commercial lines and term loans, residential and commercial construction loans, commercial real estate loans, agricultural loans, and government contractor loans.  The Bank is also a Small Business Administration (SBA) Preferred Lender.  The Residential Lending division offers secondary market and portfolio mortgage loans, one-time close construction to perm loans, as well as home equity loans and lines of credit.  For over 70 years, BCT Wealth Advisors has provided caring and personalized trust services, growing into a premier financial management, investments, and estate services provider.  The Bank also provides convenient online and mobile banking for individuals, businesses, and local governments plus free access to over 55,000 ATMs through the Allpoint® network plus another approximately 675 free access ATMs through another partnership.  BCT was voted WINNER in the LoudounNow 2024 Loudoun’s Favorite readers’ poll in four categories:  Bank, Mortgage Company, Banker, and Financial Planner.  BCT was voted a “Best of the Best” winner in the 2024 Martinsburg Journal-News Readers’ Choice Awards in three categories:  Bank, Loan Services, and Financial Planning. In 2023, American Banker selected BCT as a “Top 200 Community Bank,” an annual listing of the best performing banks in the United States with assets under $2 billion.  Since 2019, the Bank has been named a “Best Bank To Work For” by American Banker five times.

The Company's shares are quoted on the OTC Pink Sheet marketplace under the symbol "PTBS." For more information about Potomac Bancshares, Inc., and the Bank, please visit our website at www.mybct.bank.